September 9, 2017

We live in a culture that is obsessed with being happy. We wonder if a new partner or a new city or a new adventure will make us happy.  We watch ads for food and drugs and products that will allegedly make us happy. But then we move to that new city or take that vacation or eat that cookie and, after an initial surge in happiness, we end up right about where we started. Sorta happy, sort...

November 10, 2016

I know yesterday was a rough day for many. Popular words on my FB feed included grief, depression, shock, sadness, disbelief. 

When times are tough, it might seem tempting to try to find the “eject” button and apply for Canadian citizenship. Or take advantage of California's new legalized marijuana resolution to check out on a 4-year high.

But as many commentators have already pointed out,...

July 19, 2016

The internet is awash in suggestions, tips, and tricks for getting the life you want. And many of them are ideas that would truly make a difference. 

The problem is choosing the right habit to start with. You have only limited time and energy, so which one should you cultivate first?

For example, in my 20s, I hit an unhappy patch and knew I needed to make a change. 

Googling "fix my unh...

May 5, 2016

“I am so upset,” my client Myra exclaimed the other day. “I have been doing this whole dating app thing for almost 5 months now. Finally, I met a guy I actually liked, Paul. I mean, he has just about everything I am looking for! But now it’s been four days since our last date, and I haven’t heard from him. What did I do wrong? How can this be possible? He must not like me. Why do none of...

April 19, 2016

 If you are like most of my clients, you want to be in control of how things go in your life. You want to make a plan, and execute the plan, and have the outcome you want.



But but then a random thing pops up and ruins it all.


The other day, I saw a video clip that illustrates this very phenomenon.


A young violinist is playing a serious, intricate piece. Then, all of a sudden, the moment...

April 3, 2016


From the outpouring of responses to my last blog, The Case for Blissful Inefficiency, it is clear that many, many of you are ready to slow down and enjoy the day-to-day experience of LIVING your life. You don’t want to spend your days crossing items off of a ToDo list, you want to spend your days savoring them.


Game on. Let’s engineer it, shall we?



One of the biggest obstacles to doing...

March 22, 2016

If you are anything like me and everyone I know, you have spent decades mastering the art of productivity:


You have determined the exact last moment you can leave your front door in the morning and still make the bus.


You have figured out how to straighten up the living room, paint your nails, and meditate... all at the same time.


You have outsourced cleaning, cooking, shopping, and goodn...

March 13, 2016


If you were raised in the modern US school system, odds are that you were bombarded with messaging to boost that notorious-yet-intangible quality called self-esteem


You were told that you were worthy. You were told that you were great. You were given some sort of trophy that said that you were the best at something.


There is a dark side to all this hoopla about self-esteem, however. In...

January 20, 2016


If you absolutely love your job, then you are likely aware of that fact. If you are miserable at your job, then you're probably aware of that, too. 


But what about if you're somewhere in the middle?


You enjoy your job but wonder whether you should start looking for something even better. This is a tough decision, and one that most of us will inevitably struggle with at some point during...

December 29, 2015

One of the holiday cards I received this year said:


“We are thankful for a wonderful 2015 that seems to have whizzed by us all too quickly.”


Do you feel like this describes your 2015? Life got busy and before you knew it, the year had passed.


And, darn it, you now feel a little bit cheated. You wanted more time, to feel like you experienced your year more thoroughly.


Well, you can have th...

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Copyright Samantha Sutton, Ph.D., 2016

Samantha Sutton, Ph.D. is a life coach, career coach, relationship coach, and executive coach. Samantha is committed to helping her clients achieve successful, passionate careers, find love, fix marriages, build strong relationships, master time management, develop their minds to overcome limiting thinking and emotions like anxiety or anger, change bad habits and create new ones, or take on any goal. Samantha works with clients in New York City (NYC), Boston, Los Angeles (LA), San Francisco (SF), Chicago, Toronto, Massachusetts (MA), California (CA), Pennsylvania (PA), Texas (TX), Washington, DC, London, and all over the world.